It’是一年中的时间,我们将返回到结构,时间表以及下午和晚上的活动。合作和足球今天都为我们开始!一世’我对未来几周的外观和流程进行了很多思考,但我还没有做一件事’t had to give much thought to is 就寝时间. That’这是因为即使我们偶尔偶尔有个夏夜,也让我们所有人都熬夜了,但在大多数情况下,我们的睡眠时间表还是相当一致的。与吃得好一样,如果我们走得太远,我们会为此付费。有时候人’当我告诉他们我们的女孩在7:00上床睡觉时,’对我们为什么选择它以及我们如何选择有一点见识’ve made it work.
We started the 7:00 PM 就寝时间 a couple years ago, and now at ages 4 and almost 7 years old, we still aim for bed at 7:00 PM most nights. Sure, sometimes it creeps up to 7:20 PM and there are some fun summer nights that result in 10:00 PM 就寝时间s, but for the most part, our girls are tucked into bed by 7:15 PM. Quite often, they fall right asleep too, though sometimes they will stay up 读ing or looking at books for another 30 or 45 minutes before drifting off.
We love a consistent and early 就寝时间 for many reasons. First and foremost, I am a HUGE believer in the importance of 睡觉. It’保持强大的免疫系统至关重要,但同时也要保持检查态度和行为的一致性,这也确实带来了奇迹。我最近听说过(我尚未对其进行验证,所以请考虑使用它’值得一提的是,当孩子失去所需的充足睡眠时间仅一个小时,第二天他们的行为就会退缩2年。例如:如果Hailey(6岁)在一个小时后上床睡觉,但同时又起床,那么她第二天的自我处理能力与4岁的孩子相当,而不是6岁的孩子。再次,这是科学证明的吗?我不知道,但是如果女孩们睡着了,似乎可以很准确地描述我们屋子里的景象。
一些重要的实际睡眠科学是什么?一世’确保您知道这并不缺乏。 多 studies have 发现 以后上床睡觉的孩子 longer 比早睡的孩子入睡;他们在深夜也更频繁地醒来,然后没有睡到足够的时间来弥补自己的不足。我记得当女孩还是婴儿的时候总是听到“sleep begets 睡觉”现在,育儿已经快七年了’一个狂热的信徒。一世’有人说他们的孩子太有线了,他们的孩子永远无法在7:30上床睡觉,但是当孩子睡眠不足时,他们的身体(以及我们的成年身体)实际上会释放包括皮质醇和肾上腺素在内的激素,它们增加了能量。因此,夜间疯狂最有可能证明他们已经过劳了。我绝对可以在Hailey身上看到这一点,因为当她过度劳累时,她会“loopy,”或精力充沛,但眼神发呆。
Secondly, an earlier 就寝时间 works well for David and me because it gives us some time in the evenings for us. Usually the girls are down and the kitchen is cleaned up by 7:45/8:00 PM. This gives us at the minimum a solid hour to catch up, chill out, and just enjoy some adult time together. David leaves early in the mornings and I’我忙于在家上学,过着妈妈般的生活,因此,有一个小时的汇报和联系对于我们的婚姻生活确实很重要,即使有些夜晚看起来就像两个精疲力竭的人躺在沙发上一起看一场演出。
太好了’s clear I’米一个孩子睡觉的贴纸。但是,我如何使这项工作在我们的家庭中持续发挥作用呢?一世’我们曾被问过几次,很高兴分享对我们有效的方法。一如既往,我知道每个家庭的工作方式都不一样。例如,我最好的朋友不’直到晚上晚上9:00下班回家,她7岁和4岁的孩子熬夜,这样她才可以看到他们并在他们睡觉前花点时间。这对他们有用,我认为’太棒了。显然我不’认为有正确的做事方式,但是为了分享,这就是我们如何在家里建立睡眠习惯,以及我们如何’ve made early 就寝时间s and consistent 睡觉 patterns work for us.
We established that 夜间 is sacred from the very beginning. 从女孩出生的那天起,我们’我们对待夜间与白天不同。当我护理,更换尿布,摇摇欲坠地睡觉时,我们总是默默地在黑暗中这样做。从第一天开始,我们’我们试图建立一个事实,即夜间意味着黑暗,安静和睡眠。我们’ve never turned 上 lights, 读 books, or had snacks during the night, so my kids don’没有任何不同的认识。
We stick to a 就寝时间 routine. 当女孩们是婴幼儿时,我们在这方面表现出色。晚餐,洗澡,书本和床象呼吸一样是第二自然。我们没有’t dare break from it in fear of screwing up the system. Now, our routine has changed slightly, and is a little more relaxed, but it still exists. Dinner, pajamas, brush teeth, books, bed. Usually we eat around 5:30 and that takes about 30 minutes or so. Then the girls clear their plates, brush their teeth, but 上 pajamas, and we all go into the playroom to 读 books together. Some nights if David is home, we will split and I’ll 读 to 上 e girl in her bed, and David will 读 to the other in hers.
We are firm about our 就寝时间 rules. 一旦把它们塞进去,“nighttime” has officially begun. They are allowed to 读 (or look at books for Kaitlyn) and Hailey is allowed to write in her journal, but that’是的。顶灯必须熄灭。它’s time to be quiet (凯特琳没有唱歌或跳舞)。不允许您离开房间(卫生间是个例外)。
我认为它’重要的是要注意,其中的一些对于Hailey来说很容易做到。当她从婴儿床换成大女孩的床时,她仍然会躺在床上玩耍,等我们早上或午睡后再来接她。 Kaitlyn采取了更加一致的努力。当她试图不断地回来时,已经有好几个晚上要走回她的房间。她’s also the queen of “one more book”恳求,然后在答案是否定的时候尖叫。但是,我’一位信徒说,坚持我的承诺很重要,随着时间的流逝,保持一致会带来回报。
在大多数情况下,女孩们知道现在和将来会有什么期望’真的没有任何退缩。我想知道在未来的几年中它将如何变化,但是我认为我们将跨过那座桥梁。目前,海莉(6岁,差不多7岁)通常在7:45/8:00 PM左右入睡,并在7:30/8:00 AM左右醒来。凯特琳(4)的变化更大,但大部分时间在晚上7:15之前入睡,并在早上7:15醒来(无午睡)。
I’d喜欢听听您家中的睡眠方式!
What are your 就寝时间 struggles? Strengths?
Have you changed 就寝时间s as your kids have gotten older?
如果您有多个孩子,他们会在不同时间上床吗?
您如何处理?
I could not agree more. Our 7 and a half year old goes to bed around 7:15 and 读s until 7:45 (this gets pushed about half an hour to an hour in the summer) and wakes up at about 7:30。 She’s always needed a lot of 睡觉, but I think all kids actually do. If she goes to a (rare) 睡觉over or has stayed up really late, she naps the next day. Yes, naps! We have a deal that she can stay up and do whatever fun thing it is, but that the next day she needs to be honest with us about how she’s feeling. Every single time, she’s told us she’s tired and taken the exact length of nap to make up for the missed 睡觉.
我喜欢她非常适合自己的睡眠需求;真是令人印象深刻!连续几个晚上(例如假期),我可以让我们小睡,当他们这样做时,我总是会感到非常兴奋! --
I wish we could do an early 就寝时间 –但是我们的日程安排更接近您朋友的日程安排。我们通常在6:45左右吃晚餐(’在通勤,接小男孩和做饭之后,我最早能应付自如。然后我们还有洗澡,之后有一些时间可以放松一下(否则他的生活将完全由日托和睡眠组成)。一世’我很高兴您能做自己的事情并留在家中和上学! --
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When the girls 读 in bed ..do they use a night light since lights are out?
凯特琳的墙壁上有固定的夜灯,可以给她足够的光线,但是随着年龄的增长,我们可能会给她和海莉一样的床灯。它具有昏暗的灯光功能,’s really nice! //amzn.to/2whL4DC
从一开始,我们就以完全相同的方式对待睡眠。一世’m very strict! A 7PM 就寝时间 is too early for Stephen’的教练时间表,因此我们的目标是7:30-7:45,并且有效。当然,Eloise不是’完全遵守,但我们坚持到底。唤醒也一样。艾达(Ada)倾向于7:45/8到7:15-7:30睡觉。如果她在7点之前醒来,她将留在自己的房间里。我也尝试将Eloise留在她的房间直到7点,即使她太早醒来也很挑剔。不过,在美好的一天,她睡7:45-7:15/7:30。
我们做“留到你的房间直到7:00 AM”东西也!要让Kaitlyn遵循这一点很艰辛,但是’现在进展顺利。如果她早起,将Eloise留在她房间里有什么秘密吗?
关于重要的心理健康话题的优秀文章。充足的睡眠(孩子需要很多!),结构和一致性是这里的关键。恭喜“walking your talk”并传播这个词!
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一切都一样!我的女孩(5岁和2岁)每晚晚上7点上床睡觉,有时晚上6:30!朋友简直不敢相信我的孩子这么早上床睡觉,他们的熬夜直到10岁!我无法想象他们有多累?而且当我听到我’m like “but don’t you need Time to yourself or time with your husband?” Early 就寝时间 is the best thing ever!
I’ve always been super strict 上 就寝时间, and early 就寝时间s. Our kids also turn into crazy wired giggling monsters when overtired. Unfortunately, my firstborn has always been 上 the low end of normal for hours of 睡觉 she needs – she’ll be 5 in less than a month and she 睡觉s 10.5 hours max no matter what time she goes to bed (I had to abandon our 7/7:30pm 就寝时间 after finally accepting that the 4:30/5am wake-ups weren’只是夏天的症状’s arrival). So she’s usually asleep by 8pm and up at 6:30am. If she seems tired, we shift to an earlier 就寝时间 for a week or so but that means a 6am or earlier start. Luckily, my second born seems more typical, he’几乎是2.5,并且会在晚上睡大约11.5小时,并且白天要小睡2个小时以上。谢天谢地!我与两个截然不同的孩子的经历告诉我,所有孩子的需求都大相径庭。
杰西,我们家也一样! Hailey一直是我的孩子,需要更多的睡眠,而我们开玩笑说Kaitlyn可以挂得更好。哈哈-我喜欢您对不同孩子的不同需求的观点;谢谢你的评论!
Yep, 7:15 就寝时间 here for my 6 year old son and 4 year old daughter. There is lots of talk of needing to “get kids back 上 a school morning 就寝时间/schedule” but we continue ours through the summer. So no need. Maybe when they are older, but for now, 就寝时间 and evenings are also very sacred in our house.
We have the exact same set up! Our kids go to bed around the same time. Some of the best advice I received was setting up a consistent 就寝时间 routine and putting them to bed early. I am totally tell when they go to bed late. Also, if they go to bed late they definitely don’t 睡在 the next day to make up for it. Our boys also have belly lights. It’s a stuffed animal with a light in the belly and it stays 上 for 10 min. It’s great for our 5 year old because he can 读 and I don’t have to worry about turning a light off later.
哦,我喜欢肚皮灯的声音!一世’我必须检查一下。听起来很适合Kaitlyn!谢谢 -
We love early 就寝时间s and always have. However, I find this to be pretty stressful during the weeks (especially when we add in evening activities and homework). How do you manage when the girls have something in the late afternoon/early evening? This year my 7-year old will have twice a week activities, and my 5-year old 上 ce a week. I always find I am rushing the whole “bedtime routine”当我看到我这样做的时候,我的孩子们肯定会往后退并挖出脚跟。我们尝试了“shower before dinner” thing – when it works it’太神奇了。但是在学校/营地忙了一整天后,我发现我的孩子们只是想放松一下,而不是赶着去洗澡和做作业。我认为这将是一个不断发展的过程,但我肯定会发现孩子们需要睡眠,并且休息后表现更好。
顺便说一句,我的里根(最近5岁)听起来很像你的凯特琳。党的生活,总是要求很高“one more,”当被推等时向后推’t get 睡觉 –小心!而且她似乎需要稳定的12个小时的睡眠,因为她没有’午睡。因此,她需要不晚于晚上7点入睡,以便早上7点起床去上学/露营。绝对是挑战。
足球本周为海莉(Hailey)开赛,她赢了’直到最有可能接近7:15为止。一世’m planning to give her a snack beforehand, then have her shower right when she gets home while I make her a quick and easy dinner (whether that is leftover of whatever we had or 读y pasta and marinara :)). It will definitely still be a late 就寝时间, but I’m hoping she’将在8:00/8:15之前清洁,喂养和卧床。手指交叉!
老实说一世’ve多年来一直关注您的博客,而您有关睡眠的文章则使我倍感欣喜。睡眠不是解决所有问题的一种方法’看着睡眠时间更长的孩子的父母试图向他人传教的经历令人沮丧。例如,我的孩子连续睡觉的时间永远不会超过10-10.5小时。 (他 ’年纪较小,仍然小睡1-2小时)–我在互联网上遵循这样的一般建议,每天晚上7点让他睡觉,’不明白为什么他每天凌晨5点起床。保持他直到8/8:30,他’我会很高兴地睡到第二天早上6:30。你不’t think I’我晚上爱我丈夫一两个小时吗?你以为我不知道’希望我的孩子睡得更多吗?当然可以!但是孩子们都不同,并不是所有人都需要像其他人一样多的睡眠。
嗨,罗斯,我能听到您的无奈。我总是在这类育儿岗位上加入免责声明,因为如果有一件事情我会’在过去的七年中,我成为母亲的经验是,每个家庭都不一样。因此,采取可能对您有帮助的方法,并完全抛弃不’t fit. I’从人们分享对他们有用的东西中学到了最好的技巧和窍门,所以它’我本着这种精神’m happy to open up about our early 就寝时间s! I’我很高兴您发现了最适合您的家庭的事物,并在评论中分享它可能对其他同样挣扎的妈妈真的很有帮助,因此,我始终欢迎并感谢您也分享适合您的事情。
听起来您的就寝习惯确实很棒!我们在家里做的事情大不相同,但是俗话说,对您有好处,对我没有好处(我认为这句话适用于抚养孩子的许多方面!)。我们经常在6:30坐下来吃晚饭,大约在7点或之后结束。我会说,即使我们碰巧吃了一顿早饭,我还是让男孩们在某些上学之夜晚上8点以后在后院骑自行车。我们在8:30- 8:45左右开始就寝时间,他们通常在9点左右或之后睡着。他们俩都在6:45左右起床,所以我们可以在7点之前离开(他们在日托/学前班吃早餐,所以他们不需要做很多准备工作)。我知道对于一些孩子来说’睡眠不足,但我’我会说他们大多表现得很好(据2岁和4岁的孩子!)’在驾车时要入睡。它没有’如果他们在周末稍晚一点起床似乎很重要,他们将入睡并最终获得相同的睡眠时间(不到10个小时)。我的2岁小朋友在日托时睡了20分钟。如果他再小睡,他晚上很难上床睡觉。昨晚,我4岁的孩子用手把复杂的种子珠子穿到8:45,所以绝对不会发疯/过度/过度劳累,而且他们每天晚上最多睡一整夜。长大后,我也睡得很早,直到我到了一定年龄,父母把它留给了我(一旦我年纪大了,就不明白熬夜的后果)。我不’我不记得确切的年龄,但是到了中学,我就随机地在房间里熬夜了,到了高中,我记得燃烧午夜的石油,输入研究论文。不用说,尽管我的姐姐是相反的,但早睡时间从来没有困扰我。我认为它’这就是我们连线的方式。还有一件事-作为老师,我觉得我有幸经历了工作和待在家里的妈妈。在夏季的时候’在我的家中,太阳落山太晚了,我们的入睡时间推迟了(晚上10:30 pm或更晚睡觉),因为我们可以“sleep in”). It feels like a natural shift, and my husband is lucky to be able to go into work later/ work later during that time so he can 睡在 a bit later as well.
非常感谢您分享对您有用的内容’all, 劳拉! 我认为它’s so helpful to 读 about what works for different families because there definitely isn’为有父母身份的任何事情提供一种千篇一律的解决方案-
青少年是一个完全不同的故事。它’对我来说,这将是一个有趣的阶段’m 读y for bed at 9:00 and the girls are staying up until midnight! Ha!
Years ago, I 读 the book Nurtureshock. It referenced the study that that you mentioned (two year regression), but it also talked about swing 睡觉 (7:00 就寝时间 during the week and 9:00 就寝时间 上 the weekends). For every hour of swing 睡觉, children exchange 7 IQ points 上 Monday morning. Ever since I 读 that book, my husband and I have been super strict 上 就寝时间s, and our children (7 and 4) are so much better for it.
如果你没有’t 读 Nurtureshock, I highly recommend it. I think you’d like it.
I’我现在要将这本书放到我的图书馆清单上;感谢您的推荐!听起来真的很有趣!
这样做的时机’t be better. What are our 就寝时间 struggles? We were the model of 就寝时间 perfection until a couple of months ago. Now we are stuck in an overtired loop with our 3.5 year old (I think he is in a weird zone of needing an afternoon nap but it messing everything up{, and we need to come up with a game plan to break the cycle. It goes like this: Kiddo wakes up early (6am), is tired and requires a midday nap to avoid armageddon at dinnertime. We cap the nap at 1 hour. Come 就寝时间, kiddo is not tired because of said nap, and cannot fall asleep at a reasonable time –终于在830左右入睡。因为他现在已经精疲力尽并且充满皮质醇,所以他会早起。重复。我们’ve tried cutting the nap cold turkey and moving 就寝时间 up, but after a few days he is an absolute mess. We put him in bed at 7, but he sings and talks to himself for up to TWO HOURS before falling asleep. And the 6am wakeups are killing me because I’我也带着婴儿在黑夜里起床。啊。希望他能尽快退出该阶段!
我刚满4岁的孩子也遇到了类似的问题。现在,她开始振作,她的午睡已被永久切断,这对一些人有所帮助。但是在过去的几周中,我们开始使用带有7:50开始的白噪声的时钟。当它开始躺下时,她进入房间。现在,她可以在10-20分钟内入睡,而不必躺在床上唱歌和说话一两个小时。我认为白噪声有助于使她的大脑闭锁一些。也许这也是年龄的问题,因为她刚转过4岁。就挂在那!
感谢您的支持!从理论上讲,我爱白噪声机,但是自从他的轻姐姐到来后,他完全拒绝了它。她使用白噪声机,因此显然它们仅适用于婴儿。叹。
哦,阿里,我’对不起!我真的认为’s the age/transition period like 利亚 said, too! Kaitlyn dropped naps way early (like before she was two, which was insane) and we went through something similar. There was no real solution. We just stuck to no naps and an early 就寝时间 (sometimes 6:00/6:30 but that hour before 就寝时间 was WHINY) and over time it worked itself out, but we had several weeks that were pretty exhausting for all of us while she made that transition. Sending good luck and coffee your way!!
哇,很高兴听到’并不是永久性的状况-我们的宝宝似乎比我们的宝宝经历了更早的午睡过渡–我可以问凯特琳何时打dropped?
哦,天哪,Kaitlyn在她满2岁之前就放弃了它,我认为呢?她’从来没有像海莉那样睡过(海莉睡到5岁!)
Preach. We do an early 就寝时间 (dinner, bath, books, bed…是我们的口头禅!)在学年的7:30熄灭,夏季的晚上8点。在一个活跃的孩子附近很难生活—许多孩子到深夜跑来跑去。同行压力“让你的孩子成为孩子”很难。只是没有’为我们工作。我们是早起的人,早点离开房子—当其他孩子睡觉时!我们要让她睡觉’快7点了,一直都是很棒的卧铺。它对我们有用。感谢这篇文章,这是一个很好的文章,让我感到自己像’m not crazy for doing early 就寝时间 for a 1st grader!
我们是附近的疯子,他们在7:30之前将我们的孩子上床睡觉,他们通常在8:00之前入睡。我们的邻居总是对此发表评论。对我的孩子来说这很正常,因为我一直都喜欢睡觉,这是我与安静的丈夫交谈的唯一途径。我们对周末的午睡时间也非常严格(他们在托儿所的一周内)。但是小睡是为了我的利益。如果我们在午睡时间在家,他们必须在房间里安静一些。
我认为它’父母双方在屋外工作的家庭的情况有所不同。通常,晚餐后的时间是花在玩耍/追赶上,而不是赶紧上床睡觉,否则我们会’整日几乎不见孩子。我们仍然尝试让他们在8点之前入睡(6岁以上的孩子需要一点时间才能入睡,但是4岁的孩子很快。)
Yes! I love all of this! We are an early 就寝时间 household and I totally feel the pressure to extend it all the time. But it works. Kiddo gets the 睡觉 he needs and mamma gets the time she needs to herself in the evenings.
继续做对您和您的可爱女孩有用的事情!
我的孩子通常每天晚上6:30至7之间在床上睡觉,是的,我对此有一些奇怪的评论。它’做了一些牺牲– I don’t typically attend family things that start past 5:30, unless we really have to. We eat dinner early. Baths early. In bed when the sun is still up, sometimes. BUT my kids wake up EARLY (like typically before 6am) so they need an early 就寝时间. I don’t hate it. I’我也很早就起床了,宁愿在下午去放松一下。
I am a firm believer in consistent 就寝时间s as well. I am a grandmother to a 6 yo and 3 yo. I have custody of them and they live with me. However, the girls orher side of the family do not adhere to my 就寝时间, which is 830pm, period. Its making this school year very hard to get started because the 6yo, who is in 1st grade, is exhausted from the summer because the ither side disregarded my 就寝时间s. She gets up at 700am. Little 上 e is right behind her. Any advice 上 how to get the other side of the family to listen to my 就寝时间s? They go over practically every weekend and come home just exhausted. And cranky. Any advice?
This comes at the perfect time!!! We have let 就寝时间 slack this summer and my almost 3 year old has crept to going to bed at almost 9:00! I try to go to bed by 10:00 and am really struggling with the lack of “me time”在晚上。这激发了我重新开始的想法,尤其是当我们进入三分球举止和生病的赛季时!
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I really love this post! Around here, we usually get the weird looks/shamed a little bit when we tell friends that we have our 2.5yr old going to bed 7:15-7:30. Everyone else lets their babies/toddlers stay up around 9-10pm. I want her to get a good 睡觉 as well as have some alone time with my husband. She used to always wake up for the day around 4:30-5 (!!!) but since having her own big girl bed, still a toddler sized 上 e, she usually sits in bed like yours and looks at books until 8ish and then wakes up around 6-6:30 with a couple hour nap around noonish. We love our 就寝时间 routine so she knows what to expect. Thank you for sharing and making me feel a little bit better 🙂
As you know, I’m a firm 就寝时间 mamma too. For many of the same reasons; adult time, brian and body 睡觉 needs, fostering good behavior by getting enough 睡觉, immune systems and just the fact that kids thrive 上 routine and knowing what to expect.
我们快7岁的孩子于去年开始了Kinder的工作,男孩是否需要在7:30熄灯之前牢牢地躺在床上(早上6:30起床去上学),而今年夏天我们一直坚持不懈,她从不睡觉过去7点。所以我相信她的睡眠量适中。但是最近她一直在努力入睡,腿部疼痛和梦bad以求醒来,所以我认为我们可能会实现增长突飞猛进?早晚15-30分钟上床睡觉似乎没有改变。大约7到10天…..
Older kiddo. She was start routine at the same time (9 years old last school year) (7pm) but then she got to 读 or draw until 8:30 and then lights out. But she started not being able to fall asleep while still having plenty of energy, good behavior…。所以整个夏天,我们一直在8:30到9之间醒来,&7:30.
Doc说两者都在正常的睡眠范围内。好东西是我的孩子很清楚睡眠。甚至有时选择早点睡觉。或者说他们真的很累,需要那天晚上早些睡觉。
我知道我可以在7-8个小时的睡眠之间发挥作用,但是我的丈夫可以少花一点点日子。我们必须与自己保持一致。 (而且我知道我睡眠不足时会生病,这对于我的孩子来说肯定是这样!)。
好帖子B!
嗨布列塔尼!一世’我只是想知道你在夏天的时候做什么’更晚,同样,在冬天的时候’更黑了。与太阳同行,还是与时钟同行?一世’我要在几个月内成为妈妈,而我知道我们’我将有一些时间弄清楚睡眠程序(也许吗?)’我绝对对您如何解决这些问题感兴趣。谢谢 -
Go with the clock! And room darkening curtains! Start the early 就寝时间 routine at an early age (like less than a year old) and they’ll never know anything different. Congratulations!!
我认为我们从4周开始做例行检查。我们’再快一年了’最好。绝对可以遮光窗帘,甚至可以在窗户的一些硬纸板中放上东西,或真正有助于保持黑暗的东西。
我们大部分时间都是按时进行的(窗帘是遮光的!),尽管夏天的事情有些松懈。恭喜您即将成为妈妈!!<3
这里也很早,而且一直如此。
我在“lower 睡觉 needs” camp, particularly Annabel (6). Early 就寝时间 –> MEGA early wakeups. That said, I 100% agree with the behavioral consequences of not-enough-sleep! Typically we aim for 8pm 就寝时间 (which leads to ~6:30am wakeup). I also would looooove more time in the evenings, but would rather be left alone in the mornings until a reasonable hour (b/c that’是我的锻炼时间/我的时间-)。
Seeing this makes me think perhaps I should work towards 7:45 or so with a 读ing lamp . . . as her 读ing skills improve and make 读ing less effortful she may be 读y for that soon!
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是!人们以为我’m psycho with my kids 就寝时间s! My oldest (4) used to 睡觉 12 hours but no 更长 does. Bedtime is 7, asleep by 7:15-7:30 but wakes up between 6:30 and 7:00. How can I get her to 睡觉 更长? This schedule works but she was waking up at 6 and it was awful for all. Also the baby (10 months) needs to 睡觉 更长 too as she 睡觉 from 7:00-6:00.
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I’m definitely a bit more go with the flow, because it fits our life better. 我认为它’s easier to do that with 1 kiddo though. We tend to have dinner around 6:30, by time we’re finished and leftovers are away it’s almost 7:30pm. Bath/shower, brushing teeth and story and lights out by 8:30pm is our goal.
Kiddo通常在早上7点左右起床。如果周末我们去朋友家或我父母家吃饭,第二天他就会起床睡觉。我们偶尔会在一周中进行此操作,很有趣,可以平日平日晚上的聚会来聚在一起。
We’re more night owls than some. 我可以not go to 睡觉 until 11:30pm and 上 the weekend it’s later, hubby and I love our evenings!
This summer we’ve been in a trasitional state, sold our home before we 发现 / closed 上 the next 上 e, and staying with a relative. Bedtime has been crazy. So much walking back and tucking in. I’m 读y to get back in our own place this weekend.
我只有14个月,所以我可以’说话要超越我的睡眠’到目前为止,我经验丰富,但我可以说我希望是这样。我的女儿出生3m时是一个了不起的卧铺,我用新生儿的睡眠严重地折中了大奖。然后它变得可怕。绝对可怕。她需要数小时的弹跳,护理等才能入睡,然后她将在一个小时左右的时间内醒来,我们必须重新开始。它把我们带到了边缘。在6个月的时间里,我们决定去睡觉训练(这是我一直做的事,并且继续感到羞耻,我不在乎,大声笑),这是我最令人惊讶的决定’曾经做过。我发誓,直到我意识到有些婴儿只需要火车,我才会睡觉。 3个晚上后,她得以入睡并保持睡眠,这真是太神奇了。整夜都花了几个月的时间,但我需要她起床并保持至少几个小时的睡眠。她的举止与日夜不同。她变得更加快乐和嬉戏,可能是因为直到那时她已经筋疲力尽了!几个月来,每次我放下她时,我都会告诉她睡眠是如此重要,我们需要它使自己快乐和健康。 (我知道她没有’我不懂,但我是一个喜欢向婴儿解释事情的人。)现在14点钟,她开始午睡和夜间睡觉,几乎总是整夜睡觉。她’这是一个非常开心的孩子,我仍然说这是我迄今为止最好的育儿决定。
我可以’相信人们会因为睡眠训练而羞愧您。我确实服用了卡拉婴儿,这是我们为女儿和我们自己所做的最好的事情!
我喜欢听到您的故事瑞秋(Rachel),所以我很努力,因为我记得当她还是女孩的时候,我也曾口头地向女孩们口头解释这些事情,因为她非常了解她’听不懂我在说什么-哈哈!不过,这让我感觉更好-
First time 读er! I 发现 you through the fitnessista podcast. Loved your tips and this post speaks to my soul! My kids are 3.5 and 1.5. My 3.5 yr old seems to be close to dropping her afternoon nap. Their 就寝时间 is between 7:45-8. They are usually up by 6:45. I’m trying to figure out how to adjust my 3 yr old’s 就寝时间 when we transition strictly to quiet time in the afternoon instead of naps. My baby’s 就寝时间 was 7:30 but he seemed to be getting up at 5:30 so we pushed it back and can usually now wait until 6:30-45 to get him. As for getting my 3 yr old to stay in her room we have an okay to wake clock that glows at 6:45. If she waits to come downstairs until it glows she gets to watch a show during breakfast. It has worked wonders for me being able to drink some coffee before the craziness ensues ☺️
嗨斯蒂芬妮;非常感谢您停止播客!我完全同意,让他们呆在房间里直到早上一个体面的时间,生活在改变。很高兴你’能够安心地喝咖啡!
当Kaitlyn午睡时(2岁之前),这很有趣…) it took a little transition period (fussy afternoons/early 就寝时间s) but eventually it worked itself out. Good luck! 🙂
您可以在在家上学时与孩子待在家里,然后在下午1点做晚餐。我希望他们可以在7点上床。大多数人没有两个全职工作的父母那么奢侈。
We aim to put Camryn down for 就寝时间 at 7 pm though it usually takes her until about 7:30 pm to fall asleep. She gets fed 上 ce around 5:30/6 am if she cries enough and then I don’t get her out of her bedroom until 7, so basically the same routine as you 7-7. We LOVE it. It gives us time to ourselves to eat dinner together and watch a show or 读 or do whatever we want for a couple hours.
一件事我’我想知道是怎么回事’随着年龄的增长,她会改变。长大后,我总是在餐桌上一起吃饭。这是我们目前缺乏的一件事。我们只是不’t think we’ll be able to swing family dinner at 6:00 pm. I wonder as she gets older if her 就寝时间 will have to be 8pm so we can have dinner together as a family since it’s important to me.
My 8 and 4 year old just started school last week and 就寝时间 has been the biggest battle–some days they haven’直到8:30-9才睡觉!当然,我们’早上大家都筋疲力尽(不幸的是我们必须早上6点起床)。星期一开始一个新的星期,所以我’m going to try the 7pm 就寝时间!!! Thanks for the inspiration. Glad to hear I’我不是唯一一个听到我4岁大喊的妈妈“no” to “one more book!”
我3.5岁的孩子听起来很像Kaitlyn!我们说晚安后唱歌跳舞。我们最大的挣扎是让我们说晚安后让她留在房间里。一旦入睡,她通常可以整夜安眠,但是在此之前似乎发现100件事不对。“我需要更多的水,我需要撒尿,我的床上需要更多的书,我放下了玩具”。无论如何,我正在考虑穿上那些旋钮旋转阻滞物之一,以便她可以’不能出去,但是我担心着火或可怕的事情,她将需要离开房间,并且可以’t。我认为她需要像您一样的小书本灯之一,因为她的一件大事就是保持灯亮,以便她可以“read”.
天哪,从第一天开始,我们就和3.5岁的孩子在床上睡觉。我们一直很一致,直到晚上8点才放下她,但无论如何,她从不在晚上9:30之前入睡。即使她在16个月后不再打after,每天晚上也要花费1.5-2个小时才能入睡。由于我们永远无法让自己哭出来,所以1.5到2个小时通常涉及我们中的一个人和她待在她的房间里,直到她入睡。好难现在我们让她熬到9点,然后她更快入睡,但是’晚上没有停机时间仍然很困难。特别是现在有5个月大了。一世’老实说,我感到非常沮丧,因为我阅读了您的帖子并同意100%,但是我觉得我们’太过投入游戏,现在无法改变事情。我们确实有一致的晚餐,洗澡,故事,就寝时间,并且严格遵守就寝时间规则,但早睡似乎仍然遥不可及。 5个月大的时候睡8,然后3.5岁的’直到9-10点之间入睡,然后在11-11:30之前(以及3和6点)再次回到婴儿身边给护士喂奶。一世’我的生活从未如此疲惫。我知道这个阶段将会过去,但是有关如何与两个孩子一起纠缠的任何技巧/技巧/建议’好的睡眠者将不胜感激!
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嗨,贝蒂-送大礼物拥抱您,妈妈。缺乏睡眠不是开玩笑。在睡眠不足方面,我是最糟糕的人之一,这就是为什么我’我可能对此有点such。两件事-一,我不知道’t think it’改变习惯或习惯为时已晚。当然,从头开始比较容易,但是在不同情况下召开家庭会议并讨论新标准对我们来说效果很好。两堂’别那么努力您有两个非常年轻的玩偶,而您无疑在战trench中。您的工作非常出色。真的给您3.5岁的孩子8:00上床睡觉和进行个人活动是否有用?凯特琳(Kaitlyn)拥有一支LeapFrog Reading钢笔,可以让她“read”在晚上给自己订书。你可以解释她“bedtime” is 8:00 and she is expected to stay quietly in her room with the overhead lights off, but she can 读 for as long as she wants? That way at least you are hands off by 8:00? You could always start off checking 上 her every 15 minutes or so if she has separation anxiety? Again, I’我只是我自己孩子的专家(没有其他人)’s);只是尝试提供任何可能有用的东西。祝好运!<3
非常感谢您的客气话语和建议。这确实意味着您需要花很多时间来提供建议<3 We're going to give it a try with the 读ing pen and some solo time. Fingers crossed!
我们不能同意我们的房子!我的女孩分别是8岁和5岁…bedtime is 7-7:30. Our friends and neighbors think we are insane. I struggle to see the benefit of keeping them awake. We are both working parents, so I totally understand the aspect of wanting more time with them. But, 上 the occasion that we’ve had a late 就寝时间 it is definitely not worth the 就寝时间 struggles or the next day behavior.
I am with you! 我可以 see such a huge difference when my girls get enough 睡觉 and it’只是不值得我们牺牲。